It took far too long than necessary for me to get from Kyoto
to Shinjuku, but I’ll spare the details and say that after getting on the wrong
train twice and back-tracking far more than I should have, I arrived in muggy,
rainy Tokyo with sore feet, an aching back and about 8 hours to kill before my
night bus to Sendai.
Every locker at the station was full, so lucky me got to
walk around with my entire trip on my back. Fortunately, Shinjuku is
interesting and busy enough to keep your mind pre-occupied.
For example, robot girl battling is apparently a thing...a very popular thing.
I saw plenty of the street art and fashion that the area is
known for, and even popped into a few famous stores. I made a real nuisance of
myself in the enormous and very cramped Don Quixote store. The building has
five floors, and they all are just jam-packed with a wide variety of everything
imaginable. Designer bags and shoes, home appliances, toys, gag gifts, tech,
gear, snacks, music, clothes, cosmetics, luggage and more, just stuffed in to
the ceiling! I shimmied my way through the shelves and racks and indulged in a
few little items like a Bath and Body Works Minty Foot Scrub (hey—I was looking
forward to a little pampering after this trip). And hey, anything from Bath and
Body Works for under 20 bucks is a freaking miracle. My scrub was just 700 yen!
Yeah, let that settle.
As the sun went down and the neon lights came up, I was starting to feel seriously under dressed. There is some amazing and edgy fashion in Shinjuki: everything you've heard is true. I had read about a shop in the area that sold cute fashion corsets, so I went looking for it thinking I could just change there and wear it out. Unfortunately, the place I'd read about wasn't in the right location. So instead, I found a plaza and propped myself against a rock to rest and people watch for a bit.
That's when the creep found me.
At first, he'd just doubled back to say hello and then we were conversing in Japanese/English. It was fine, but this middle-aged man kept commenting on my eyes and even my body, asking if I had a boyfriend.
Obviously, I lied and said "Yes, and he visits every month." He also kept licking his lips or sticking his tongue out the corner of his mouth. For all his business attire, he was seriously gross. He actually suggested (seriously? jokingly?) that he could be my Japanese boyfriend (lick) and told me he loved me (lick). Finally, I told him I had to leave and meet my friend in the station. He offered to buy me dinner but I just said no thanks and walked away...only because my bag was too heavy for me to run.
Maybe you’re thinking I should have just laughed it off,
that he couldn’t possibly be serious…but is that just a common way for
middle-aged and older men to talk to young women here? Because it happens
EVERYWHERE! And maybe I could have just taken it as a joke, but something about
this guy in particular was just giving me red flags out the hoo-ha.Why don't the handsome young salarymen pay me that sort of attention? Why just old perverts?
But seriously, what am I doing to draw these guys my way
like so many moths when all I need is a butterfly? Ok, that’s asking a lot, I
realize. How about I settle for a luna moth?
Fortunately, that doesn’t conclude my adventures in
Shinjuku. At this point, I was grossed out, but also starving. Stations are
tourist meccas for food, so I went up to the restaurant floor seeking out the
comforts of the Starbucks. Unfortunately, I’m not a novel thinker and the place
was full. So onward and upward to the 6th floor when I found the
most beautiful sight in the world:
An all day/late night pancake shop.
Yes, Tana. Let's make some pancakes. |
The place is called Slappy's Pancakes and it was set up a little like an
teppanyaki place where if you elect to sit at a table with a griddle, you could
make your own pancakes. I wasn’t feeling nearly that adventurous, so I just
asked for a regular table.
When I'm whimsical, I play with my latte foam |
I was surprised when my waitress spoke in some very good
English. She was actually from Akita and was amazed that I was teaching in
Iwate: she knows the area well, and told me that Tohoku has a special place in
her heart. It was so nice, after a long day and a long trip, to be talking to
someone so kind about our mutual “home.”
And the fact that she served me this familiarity with coffee
and pancakes only solidified our sudden friendship.
Maybe it was the tired feet, or there’s seriously something
magical in that batter, but those were seriously the best pancakes I’ve eaten
in my life.
So we talked for a little while. I asked her what brought
her to Shinjuku since she was from Akita. She came to Tokyo to find work
because she loved the big city life (even though her heart belongs to Akita)
and her first job was in this pancake restaurant. Ever since then, she’s never
wanted to do anything else. She enjoys being a waitress and her job here is
secure.
I thanked her for my food and she went off to check on
another table. After she left, I started thinking. How amazing it has to be to
have that sort of contentment about what you’re doing.
I sat there, amazed. I can only hope to find that sort of
satisfaction, especially now when I don’t know for sure what I’ll do with my
life. The way she carried herself and talked about how she enjoyed her job just
made me reflect on how in America, every child is told they’re special and
every other show on TV is about discovering the next idol in music or dance or
television. In a land of equal opportunity, everyone thinks they’ll be the next
big thing. And while sure, that’s great, reach for the stars, elementary school
kids are brainwashed with the “I’m special” creed. Yes, everyone is special…in
their own way. But the sense of entitlement that comes along with chanting “I’m
special” is damning: it sets a tone that some people are better than others
just based on what they do with their lives.
The pancakes that changed me |
In Japan, junior high schoolers tell me that they want to
work in book stores or bakeries or be nursery school teachers. People work at
convenience stores and gas stations and on construction sites with pride
because they know that what they’re doing, they’re doing to the best of their
ability and their participation builds a better, stronger society.
And I love that way of thinking.
Nobody needs to be rich or famous. Find what makes you
happy and do that for as long as you can: isn’t being happy more important than
being prestigious? We all have a place in this world, and none is better or
worse than the next. You can’t have executives without clerks. You can’t have
police chiefs without officers. You can’t have elaborate half-time shows
without someone pushing buttons and wearing a headset backstage. And you can’t
have pancakes in Shinjuku if someone’s not mixing up the batter in the kitchen.